Tuesday, 28 July 2015

T h e || P u r s e - s u i t || o f || h a p p i n e s s

  1. the state of being happy.
What did you wish for when the bells chimed all those months ago, and 2015 turned in? 

I remember making a couple of my requests known to God. Nothing that was out of the ordinary to be honest, but I definitely felt it was important to seek Him, speak my expectations into being and adopt confidence through faith, in order for there to be any slight chance of them materialising. 

Over the last few months, many of the people I know and love have expressed just how easy it is to feel anything more than unhappy, and have gone on to maturely identify that moving at a pace and in a style foreign to them was both hindering their potential...and their happiness.

We get. I get. They get it. Do you get it? 

Here's my theory; with the turn of a new year comes a (totally human) expectation of new things - relationships, appearances, careers and attitudes - and with every corner of the world encouraging practices such as new year's resolutions, de-cluttering and the adoption of a 'new and improved' lifestyle, it really is easy to feel anything other than happy when you're on a pursuit that is in actual far from personal.

I can't begin to emphasise just how important working through the wait (for result and change) is. I've found it to be crucial. 

I don't find comfort in believing that good things come to those who wait dormant, but I know and have tasted of a couple of good things coming through as a result of waiting on, depending on, seeking and living for God.

Psalm 34:4-8 

4 God met me more than halfway, he freed me from my anxious fears. 
5 Look at him; give him your warmest smile. Never hide your feelings from him.

Walking along on my way to work earlier this week, I found myself repeating the words;

"Happiness is the greatest reward when it has been greatly desired. When it has been greatly sought after" 

Check out some tips on how best to make the best of your current situation, and how to cultivate a journey of happiness:

1. Be with those who make you smile.  

You know how the saying goes 'iron sharpens iron', and given the fact that I don't know anyone who enjoys being around miserable people, it's worth assessing (not judging) your affiliations. Are you losing more than you gain? Pick those who are joyful and let it rub off on you.
2.   Hold on to your values. 

What you find to be true, what you know is fair, and what you believe in are all values. Over time, the more you honour them, the better you will feel about yourself and those you love and continue to learn about. You'll often find that sticking to these are a good sense / source of discipline and people will appreciate your time, efforts and giftings for this very reason.

3.    Accept the good. 

Assess things and take a minute to pat yourself on the back for all the things that you've achieved as opposed to all the things that have gone wrong / haven't happened yet. When good things happen, even the very little ones, let them in.
4.    Imagine the best. Don't be afraid to look at what you really want and see yourself getting it. The truth is that imagining getting what you want is a big part of achieving it.

5.    Do things you love. 

Take up a hobby. Socialise with friends.  Try new activities. The world is your Oyster!
6.    Find purpose. 
Those who believe they are contributing to the well-being of humanity tend to feel better about their lives. Most people want to be part of something greater than they are, simply because it's fulfilling.
7.    Listen to your heart. 
You are the only one who knows what fills you up. Your family and friends may think you'd be great at something that really doesn't float your boat, so be sure to identify things that you want to do as opposed to something they believe would work for you! 

8.    Push yourself, not others. It's easy to feel that someone else is responsible for your fulfilment, but the reality is that it is really you in charge. Once you realise that, you have the power to get where you want to go. Stop blaming others or the world, and you'll find your answers and direction on how to get 'there' much sooner.
9.    Be open to change. Even if it doesn't feel good in that moment, change is the one thing you can count on. Change will happen, so make back-up plans and emotionally gear yourself up for the experience. It's inevitable - it's coming.
10. Bask in the simple pleasures. Those who love you, treasured memories, silly jokes, good food, authenticity, originality, new experiences warm days (we've had practically ZERO OF THOSE!). Above all, free and see the realness, and yield to it my dear friend.

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Palazzo Suit: prettylittlething.com
Wedges: Topshop

Kandidly His, Kandidly Yours,

K-G xo


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