Thursday, 26 March 2015

T h e || p u r p o s e f u l || P a r i s i a n || p o s t ||



Designed to be useful, practical, purposeful.

Taking time out to identify the plan and purpose for your life can seem like a daunting task when you first think about it. Arriving at that 'Eureka!' moment, and discovering how best to go about finding just what it on earth it is you're here to do, isn't the easiest of tasks either, but it is almost certainly one of the most important discoveries you'll ever make in your lifetime.

Enter Utilitarian. A cyclical trend that has certainly lasted a lot longer than I thought it would. Just think overalls, khaki’s and contradicting basic shades coming together to make for a practical look 'pulled' for a specific purpose. 

After a fulfilling chat with my church-sister Gina (I love you, girl), I came to understand that there are a number of things that can and should be reviewed within ourselves in order to fully determine just what it is that we should seek to do, and do it well. 

1) Nothing worth having comes easily, so ask yourself this: How much struggle and sacrifice are you willing to endure to live within your purpose? Are you willing to handle failure, rejection, hard work and a long wait before you are able to experience balance in your life? 

2) Evaluate your talents and 'good-ats'. How many things are you capable of and competent in: How many of those things are of worth? How will they benefit you, and more importantly, others around you? Pray on and over that bad boy! Then pray on it again sister-girl.

Decide this, because at some point you will be faced with this decision: Do I keep going?

3) Will you allow social or professional pressures to squeeze the passion and time out of you? What if no one in your life quite understands your vision, validates it, or rewards it with money? Will you still show up and do what you are put on this earth to do - day in, day out? Remember that there'll be days when you'll be working more hours than you sleep? Are you ready?

Heels - Matalan (Similar here)
Dress - Forever 21 (Similar here)
Lipstick - Rebel by Mac

4) Are you willing to allow yourself to be totally vulnerable? Here's a fact: When great things unfold, by their very nature they are unique and unconventional. Therefore, to achieve them, we must go against herd mentality -- a wise woman once said, in order to get something you've never had before, you need to do something you've never done before.

When you do your best, and you give something every bit of your creativity, your trust and your power, the opinions of others do not make it into your list of priorities. Embrace embarrassment. Embrace abandonment. Embrace yourself and push past it. Feeling doubtful and even afraid is part of the deal, sister-girl. The more something scares you, the more meaningful it is. Fear is a big "tell" that you are on your path to purpose.

4) Passion is the result of action, not the cause of it. Finding your passion is a trial-and-error process. Are you willing to hit the trail and find it?

5) The gift of life is a short one, and we are here to do something magnificent. So ask yourself: What do I want my legacy to be? What do I have to say, to give in life? Work backwards. Thinking about death may have a touch of freak to it, but it actually has value because it forces us to think of what's important to us.

Your purpose in life is bigger than any single goal -- it's your reason for being on the planet. You may have more than one purpose, and the purpose of your purpose may evolve over time, but be at peace with the pace. It's your reason for existence. It'll be worth discovering.

I promise you -- it's out there.

With love from Paris...

Kandidly His, Kandidly Yours,

K-G xo



  1. I absolutely love this post! so clear and concise!!! I can relate to a few things mentioned on the checklist! LOVE it & I Love you! x


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